One of the things that regularly gets me thinking in this modern world of working is how well supported we are as individuals. We’re living in a world where we are more connected than we’ve ever been before. Knowledge and information is readily available and accessible in ways that we couldn’t have predicted 20 years ago. People can access other people from across the globe in ways that we thought was only possible in sci-fi films.
With all of this always on and always accessible ways of working and ways of being, how much notice and care do we give to maintaining our personal resilience and wellbeing? Do you consider you need to care for those things in order to be at your best when it calls for it?
It sounds like resilience and wellbeing are part of the same thing, and in some ways they are. Wellbeing encompasses many different aspects of life – physical health, mental health, emotional health, financial health, marital/relationship health, are some of the main ways we might consider our wellbeing is supported or affected. Resilience is about our capacity to deal with hard and difficult times when they happen.
What intrigues me is that as much as we might know we should take care of these things, most people make excuses for not. And when they don’t, what can happen is that they’re simply not experiencing the best of themselves. At best, they’re experiencing a version of themselves which could be best described as just running on the treadmill – not really going anywhere but at the same time doing lots of stuff.
And what intrigues me most of all, is that in thinking about wellbeing and resilience, people often assume it’s the kind of work you should only do if you’re facing hard times. Where, if life’s going your way, and things are good for you at the moment, what are you doing to maintain that in healthy and positive ways?
How is your wellbeing? How is your resilience? What kind of things do you do to be supportive of yourself? What kind of things am I talking about?
- We know that physical exercise up to three times a week that is exertive in nature is helpful to maintaining a healthy body. This doesn’t mean we have to go to the gym three times a week, but we do have to keep the body active – what are you doing to help yourself?
- We know that having a personal support network where you can openly share and talk about your feelings helps us understand our emotions and find ways to manage different kinds of emotional experiences so that they don’t dominate our thinking. Who helps you do this well? Do you have different people to help you talk about things in different ways?
- We know that if you dedicate up to 10 mins a day reflecting on things that have gone well, you have longer lasting feelings of positivity and happiness. Do you do this?
- We know that if you express feelings of appreciation to those close to you, it helps strengthen your relationship with them. It’s not just about telling people that they matter to you, it’s about telling them why they matter. How often do you do this?
- We know that if we’re suffering from mental health challenges and we let others know, there are forms of support available to us that we may have dismissed and thought unavailable. How are you safely letting others know what support you need?
Those who know me and have worked with me know that in all I do, I actively work to help people safe and use their voice to articulate what they need and feel that they’re heard. In doing this, I take what I know from my professional career, my personal reading in positive psychology and in emotional intelligence and I try to embody these as best as I can.
So, this is an active call out. I want to develop a coaching practise that is focused on helping people build their resilience and helps them develop their wellbeing positively and in healthy ways. If that’s you, and something you want to talk more about, get in touch.